How to work out your core fear

How to work out your core fear

Our highest calling and greatest gift is often tightly nestled right behind our core fear. The higher your calling, the more fear you may have around it. Annoying but true! When we step into our biggest, brightest, most expanded self, our core fear is always triggered. Core fears are triggered by a childhood experience, and our ego uses these experiences as evidence that we are separate and alone in this world.

You are not separate. You are not alone. The ego then creates a script, which plays round and round in our head. By understanding what our ego’s script is telling us, we can stop the fear in its track and lessen the power it has over us.

Core fears:

  1. ‘I’m not good enough.’
  2. ‘I’m bad.’
  3. ‘I’m unworthy.’
  4. ‘I’m all alone.’
  5. ‘There’s something wrong with me.’
  6. ‘Everyone abandons me.’
  7. ‘I should be ashamed.’
  8. ‘I’m unlovable.’
  9. ‘I’m nothing.’
  10. ‘It’s not safe to be me.’

Which one do you relate to most? Can you track it back to a childhood experience? What’s the first time that you recall feeling like this? The more conscious we are, the less power our core fear and ego’s script has on us over time.

If you notice your fear coming up, it’s actually a good sign that you’re stretching yourself in the right direction. If you were playing it safe and ignoring your calling, the ego would have nothing to lose. As you step into your bigness and make the choice to expand your fears will raise their head.

Think of your fears as opportunities to expand, rather than things that are holding you back. If you look at your fears in this light then, as uncomfortable as it might feel, it’s actually a sign that you are on the right track.

My teachers always taught me, that if youre not uncomfortable, youre probably not growing. And the whole point of us being here is to grow. When fear comes up, give yourself a high five and say YES to expansion.

Work Your Light:

Take a look at the core fears listen above and select the one that applies most to you. What would you do if you weren't afraid? Share it in the comments below:

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  • Dharm

    There’s something quite beautiful when another human being is so brave, open and honest about their fears. It becomes even more beautiful, when the one sharing from the depths of their being is a great teacher. By sharing your fears with us Rebecca, you give us “permission” and confidence to share ours also. You teach us that it’s ok to feel what we are feeling and to be honest about it.You become our friend and not simply our “Teacher”….”Thank you” Rebecca for allowing me to learn with you….Maybe the Dalai Lama was right…”The World will be saved by the Western Woman”… who is not afraid to share her true feelings 🙂

  • Monique Lovelock

    Just saw an ad on TV for a feminine hygiene product (of all things) and it included this quote by Megan Washington (Singer-Songwriter) “All the things I have done in my life that I am proud of are all things on the threshold of which I felt immense fear.”

  • Monique Lovelock

    Well said Dharm! I particularly like your last phrase “..who is not afraid to share her true feelings.” It is so important to be our authentic selves. There is something quite amazing happening in the universe at the moment and it’s so exciting to be part of the conversation.

  • Dharm

    Hi Monique, The Divine Feminine/Feminine principal is now returning ushering in a New Reality. Anything that has been suppressed on an individual or collective level (emotions, feelings, words, truth) will now start surfacing – it has to.There is no other way. This will lead to a transitional period of “Chaos” before balance. As we move into a higher vibrational existence, that which no longer serves the new version of us will fall away and the present system into which we are born (and all that it stands for), will begin to crumble, freeing that which has been stuck. It will be like Atlantis resurfacing from the depths! A new Golden Age 🙂

  • Dharm

    Hi Monique, The Divine Feminine/Feminine principal is now returning
    ushering in a New Reality. Anything that has been suppressed on an
    individual or collective level (emotions, feelings, words, truth) will
    now start surfacing – it has to.There is no other way. This will lead to
    a transitional period of “Chaos” before balance. As we move into a
    higher vibrational existence, that which no longer serves the new
    version of us will fall away and the present system into which we are
    born (and all that it stands for), will begin to crumble, freeing that
    which has been stuck. It will be like Atlantis resurfacing from the
    depths! A new Golden Age 🙂 🙂

  • Monique Lovelock

    It’s about time!!

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  • Kathy Pearson

    Whenever I experince fear or resistance I feel it in my physical body. I used to hate it and do everything I could to get rid of it, painkillers, chiropractors etc now I give it a high five, and ask the pain what it’s here to show me; I get the answers quickly and I can heal, doing what my soul needs me to do next 🙂

    My core fear is that I’m not good enough.

    I’ve come to realise you don’t have to be the best to be good enough, just by being unique and yourself, you are the bestest version of you and serving in the best possible way. 😉

  • Hannah

    I have realised my biggest fear is that I am not good enough for the people who matter most, I am not a good enough daughter for my parents, I am not a good enough wife for my husband, I am not a good enough mother to my 6 amazing beautiful children, I am not a good enough sister to my siblings and I am not a good enough friend. I now know this fear and many other fears manifest within my body as pain and lethargy and for years I have drowned out these pains with taking general painkillers and tried to cure the lethargy with time in bed where I can’t sleep anyway as my light is being turned back on after dimming it for years I have taken the time for regular massage and meditation which is much more helpful for the pain and lethargy yet it isn’t getting me anywhere with the fears themselves just yet, am I missing some crucial point?

  • Cait

    Struggling with understanding the difference between fear and not hearing my gut instinct telling me something isn’t right and I’m not listening. They both give me this feeling like an animal is burrowing in my stomach or as if my heart has dropped to my feet. I’m hoping meditation can help me discover the difference.

  • Absolutely, the more you meditate and build that relationship with your inner self, the clearer the guidance and knowing will become.

  • Keep up the meditation Hannah. And know that fears are normal, the more we acknowledge and notice that even though they are there, we are actually still ok, the less they control us.

  • Ronja Räuberstochter

    Dear Rebecca,

    I can relate to these fears but I have no clue how to work on them? Can you help?

    Thank you,

    Ronya

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