Sometimes your life gets emptied out so it can be filled up with things that are even better. Sometimes the tower must burn for us to finally let go of what is no longer in alignment. Sometimes Kali comes along and rips things apart so that we can put the pieces back together in a way that is much better than it was before. Sometimes when you have nothing to lose you have everything to gain.
Call in your people.
They’re out there. The ones that get you.
The ones who are the same kind of bonkers as you.
Who you don’t need to explain anything to.
Who want you to win and feel it when you fall.
Who, no matter how long they’ve been on the planet, feel like they’ve spent all of it looking for you.
They’re out there. And they want to find you.
But you have to lean into your inner weirdness so they know it when they see you.
What on earth would you devote your life to if you had the chance? (You do).
A thing, a cause, lots of things, someone, something you believe passionately in?
Or maybe something you just absolutely love.
Waking up every day. Long hours. Pushing through the hard. Flowing through the good.
What do you do tirelessly even when you’re depleted? Especially when you’re depleted.
What brings you back to life?
What do you do when no one’s looking?
What do you want to be known for?
What one thing do you want to change?
What would you still do if you were the only person left on the planet?
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Leap. Take the plunge. Don’t shimmy round the edges. Dive right in.
Into your wholeness. Your ‘youness’. Contradictions and imperfections and oddness and fabulousness and all.
In doing so, sure, you may find that you don’t quite fit in.
But that’s just because in stepping into your bigness you’re going to need more room.
And you’ll probably find that the people around you will actually readjust.
And if they don’t, stuff ’em.
Keep leaping on.
One of the best feelings in life is giving. It warms the cockles seeing the pure joy you created for another person. Joy that wasn’t there the moment before. So the next time someone gives you a compliment, be kind and take it! Don’t block the joy for the giver just because you are trying to not sound full of yourself. It might feel a little odd at first if you’re not used to it, but it will also feel pretty fantastic. And in receiving it you will be saying to the Universe, bring it.
In the womb, our human heart is the first organ to develop. The moment it stops beating, this life is officially over. But the power of this magnificent organ lies much deeper than its four-chambered walls. The heart has an energy field that is 5000 times greater than the brain. Home of our intuition, it has an intelligence that scientists are just scratching the surface of. A depth of wisdom, a knowingness, an interconnectedness, a oneness with all of life that cannot be put into words. Indescribable. Both human and cosmic all at once. Just as its blood nourishes all parts of the human body, the sweet nectar of the divine Heart nourishes all parts of the soul and spirit.
It takes courage to admit our faults. To own our mistakes. To stop and say I need a hand. It didn’t work out. I don’t know how the hell I’m going to do this. But in doing so we let the cat out of the bag, we stop wasting our energy on keeping up a facade and can use it towards getting on with what we really want to do. Besides, what we see as making ourselves feel vulnerable, others perceive as courageous. And if they don’t, they weren’t your people in the first place.#rebeccathoughts
Don’t be normal. Embrace your weird. Get naked. Release your inner oddball. Let your crazy out. When you do, three amazing things will happen. #1: The people in your life who don’t really care about you and love you for you will drop off. #2: You will feel a hell of a lot more fantastic and free. #3: You will find your people.
Home. A patch of land. A group of people. A place. A feeling. That eternal search to belong. Like many travellers I’ve been on that journey. That adventure. That search. And as I board another plane I’ve come to realise that mine is a portable one. It has no bricks and it has no door. Sometimes it’s surrounded by the most beautiful people and sometimes none at all. It’s nowhere I’ve been and none of the amazing places I am still to discover. Home is wherever you’re with you. xxx
When we play or do anything without an attachment to the outcome our right brain is activated. The right brain is home to our intuition. Our intuition has the potential to help us leap and put things together that our left brain could not. Be productive. Do nothing.
Don’t fall in love with someone, fall into love. Any relationship that is based on needing the other person is a form of co-dependence. It doesn’t mean that the relationship isn’t right for you, however it does mean that the thing that you are looking the other person to fill is the exact thing that you can fill yourself. We can not truly love someone until we truly love ourselves.
That niggling feeling. That annoying niggling feeling. That inconvenient annoying niggling feeling. Try as you might, it’s there. And it ain’t going anywhere. I’ve spent years ignoring niggling feelings. Throwing my best dollops of stubbornness, ego, post rationalisation and numbing out at them. It’s exhausting. And until you face it, life just throws more bait at you to awake the niggle. Face the niggle now. It might be hard at first, but is always better in the end. #rebeccathoughts
Be open to being cracked open. Wide open. It’s the difficult times that help us grow. In leaps and bounds and ways that we could only dream possible. Or impossible. But at first they have to crack us open. And sometimes it hurts like hell. It’s nature’s way. But the thing is, whether you let it happen or not it’s going to happen. So surrender to the process and let life do its thing. It’ll be worth it. It’s how the light gets in.
What does your energy say about you?
Forget the words that fill the space up. When you enter a room, what does your presence say?
We all know that more than 90% of communication is non-verbal, and our sixth sense is just as powerful as the rest of them.
But we often forget to readjust the energy or vibe that we are giving off as we go about our day and according to the situation.
Next time you are walking into a room, walk into it with intention. What energy do you want to give off? Openness, love, gratitude, understanding? Or maybe you are pissed off.
I often forget to breathe. Well not really… ’cause then I’d be dead. Just properly… deeply.
And particularly when I’m worried or stressed, I catch myself breathing really shallowly.
As if I’m shrinking away from life and breathing shallowly in protest.
When you breathe deeply, the fear and anger and stressy-ness start to dissolve a little bit and things get just a little bit clearer.
Try it next time you’re feeling scared/angry/having a tantrum.
The things we cling to are the things we most need to let go of. Inconvenient truth!!!
Recently I was forced to let go of something I’ve been clinging to for over a decade.
The truth is that I knew I was clinging to it. Doing all I could to hold it together.
But for some reason, way deep down I felt I needed it. To fill something in me.
I also knew that by clinging to it I was stopping myself from filling myself up with goodness, moving into wholeness and letting something better/more fabulous/deserving in.
As painful as it was to let go of (and the pain always comes first), I am so grateful that life finally forced me to do so.
And, today with you as my witness, I’m making a promise to myself to not cling tightly (or loosely) to anything anymore.
Forge, don’t follow.
There is nobody on this planet (or Universe) who comes even close to possessing the same combo of unique skills/gifts/life experience wrapped up in the same package as you. Fact.
The age of worshipping and following is over and it’s time for all of us to stop fitting in and start being big.
Being ourselves. Spilling over.
Forget fitting in.
I read a great quote the other day which I just love. I believe it was said by Lily Tomlin:
‘The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat’.
You gotta look at your fear to get over it.
The more we avoid it, the more it drives everything we do.
Most people do everything they can to avoid it.
They go around and around it rather than looking it square in the eye and going in.
If we move into it, it might not completely go away but at least you will be able to walk alongside it rather than it leading you.
Sometimes your life gets emptied out so it can be filled up with things that are even better. Sometimes the tower must burn for us to finally let go of what is no longer in alignment. Sometimes Kali comes along and rips things apart so that we can put the pieces back together in a way that is much better than it was before. Sometimes when you have nothing to lose you have everything to gain.
Ever noticed how when you get an idea it comes to you whole? And quick too. In a millisecond, an instant, all of a sudden. What previously didn’t exist is now a thing. A potential creation. Well I believe that there are ideas out there begging to be born. Creative babies cruising around the ether; waiting, just waiting for some conscientious artist to deliver it into the world. And right now, there’s one hoping to be born by you.
If you want something, don’t wait around for someone else to give it to you. Give it to yourself first. When you do, two things happen.
1: You get what you want.
2: You change your vibration and so people then give you what you want.
For so long, I waited around willing my partner at the time to buy me flowers. Disappointed every time they didn’t. But I also didn’t buy them for myself. Until one day I said ‘f it’ and gave myself a £15 budget every week to buy flowers to my heart’s content. It felt a bit lame at first, but when I discovered how much it fed my spirit (the real reason I craved them in the first place), my perception changed. And now, I actually get given flowers from someone new pretty much every week. If you want something, give it to yourself first. And in doing so you will attract that exact thing bountifully.
Get uncomfortable. The squirmier the better. My teacher Sonia Choquette taught me that if you’re uncomfortable, it means you’re learning. So it’s a good thing. Oh yeah. Breathe on that. And if you’re learning, you’re growing. And if you’re growing you’re opening, blossoming, emerging into the whole, expansive most gorgeous you out there. So if you’re uncomfy right now, high five. And if you feel super comfortable, maybe it’s worth throwing on some metaphorical soul stilettos and wearing them in. xxx
If it feels right it’s going to be right. Even if it doesn’t make sense. No, especially when it doesn’t make sense. We all have in us a guidance system that is more brilliant than our minds could ever imagine. And so that niggling feeling, it’s telling you something. And that soft flowy feeling, it’s telling you something too.
I believe we each have within us an aching that is craving to be met. It’s not a physical ache and it’s not a mental one. It’s much much deeper than that. We came into this life with it and it drives our deepest desires (our best decisions and our worst). It’s the ache of the soul. This aching is so powerful that it moves us through life almost like an inner compass drawing things nearer to and further from us in order to somehow soothe the ache. It drives our deepest desires, our wishes and our wants. And until we actually take the time to acknowledge the ache, take a look at it, give it a name, and decide to understand it we humans can have a tendency to go through life sort of like a pin ball in an arcade game. Drawn to experiences which have the potential to hold up a mirror to what we are actually aching for… but then just before we allow it to crack us open we then bounce off into another direction to another experience that is trying to do the same thing. Enter patterns and why does this always happen to me conversations and metaphoric banging heads on walls.
Everyone’s ache is different and equally as important. And I believe that until we acknowledge and accept our own personal aching, we will always feel a little uncomfortable. Like there’s something that isn’t quite right. Like a teeny stone in your boot or when the underwire of your favourite bra begins to poke through (too much info?).
So I invite you to put your hand on your heart, take a deep breath and have a conversation with your soul. Thank it for being there and ask it what it most aches for. Trust whatever comes. It may be a little quiet at first, but keep asking everyday. Maybe it’s to belong, maybe it’s to be purposeful, maybe it’s to be free. Whatever it is, I invite you to little by little consider building your life around getting that deep ache within your soul met. It might be a little uncomfortable at first but the aligned feeling of your soul being acknowledged and filled up will be beyond worth it in the end.
Our suffering happens for us not to us. As hard as it is, the things that almost break us are the things that came to make us whole. To rejiggle things enough to get you back into alignment. To smash the pieces that were actually stuck together in the first place. To shake your foundations enough so you can build new ones that no situation or person could ever break. We are entering a time in history where anything inauthentic simply cannot survive. So love your suffering and don’t fight it. It’s there to teach you a lesson and lead you back to your most authentic self. Simply stand out of the way and let the universe do its thing.
I’m a perpetual traveler. A searcher. Always looking for ways to grow and learn and understand. For many years I searched for that feeling of truly being at home. Through people, places and experiences. I moved countries, cities, houses. I traveled all across the planet meeting truly amazing people, visiting some hugely diverse places and filling my suitcase with breathtaking experiences. But never quite perfectly finding that place or person who would bring me that at home feeling. Until I realised that the place was not physical and while enhanced and made warmer by the people it was so not about them. That place was inside myself and like all things that truly matter, I had it with me all along.
When you connect to the unlimited universal source of light you tap into just that, an unlimited source of light. Shining your light becomes effortless and you quite literally light up a room just by entering it. The more you tap into it, the more effortless it tends to come to you. But in order to share your light with others you first need to connect with it and be 100% filled up first. And remember, it’s not your job to feed others with light on tap 24/7, rather to light their path so that they can connect with their own unlimited source of light. Shine bright. You are light.
Peace comes at the end of what is often a very long silence. When we’re not listening, silence can be the most uncomfortable thing in the world. But when we are, it is absolute bliss. The answers to all of our deepest desires, longing questions and those moments of extreme peace can all be found there on the other side of silence. But in order to find them we need to be willing to open our ears and hearts to things that we might not want to hear… to inconvenient truths that we quite frankly don’t want to admit. And like anything annoying, it’s a totally normal reaction to want to shut it up. To turn it down. To switch it off. To numb it out. But if we can somehow manage to find a way to instead lean into this uncomfortableness and take a moment to listen to it every day regardless of the message we will discover what it has to say is actually not as scary as not listening. And before long you will be rewarded for your efforts by finding yourself on the other side of silence where true peace lives. I so wish this for you. And so it is.
The world needs you cracked open. Not carefully stuck together. For many people, there comes a point where life has a way of knocking us over enough times that the pieces just have to fall on the floor. Try as we might with the super glue and blue tack, we eventually let it all come falling down. This is life’s way of rejiggling all the bits. Reshuffling the parts that were in the wrong place to start with. Especially now. At the time it can feel like you’re broken. But the truth is that you are actually more whole than you can possibly imagine. You are more whole and closer than you were before. And before long you will come to bless the things that cracked you open. Because just like Humpty Dumpty, regardless of all the king’s horses and all the king’s men, we are the only ones who can put ourselves together again. And you can. And you will. And it’s going to be glorious.
It’s not giving if you expect to receive something back in return. When you give from a place of pure giving, two things happen.
1. You open the floodgates of abundance and the Universe flows it right back to you. Tenfold.
2. The people you give to can feel your pure gift and don’t feel icky and guilted into giving back to you, which will mean that they actually want to give back to you from this pure place of love.
So it’s give give (and you are also likely to receive an even better present, lol!).
Give it a go next time you are giving someone a gift; all you need to do is change your intention and energy. Throw in a bit of gratitude while you’re at it, and the Universe is going to treat you all through the year.
Don’t dim yourself to accommodate for someone else’s smallness. We are all born to shine bright and expand. So if someone makes you want to retract, notice and slowly back away. They are not for you. They are certainly not one of your people. Or better yet, find it within you to expand and shine your light anyway. That’s your normal state. It’s in that state that life flows and bends towards and everything just works. You are recognised and appreciated and rewarded just for being you. Everything just feels great. When you are in that state you are a pleasure to be around. And if others don’t want to be around you or you make them feel uncomfortable it’s because you are shedding light on the fact that they are dimming to fit in themselves. And by you shining bright you may just inspire them to do the same. Or not. Shine bright anyway and watch as life shines right back at you. That’s my prayer for you x
A year ago I completely changed my concept of love. I was heavy hearted, disappointed and ready to give up on the whole relationship thing. After mourning the end of a long relationship that spanned most of my adult life I had spent the best part of 18 months in proactive healing mode (doing everything I could to become okay with choosing to be “out of love” and doing everything I could to eventually get to the place where I might want to “fall in love” with someone again). Up until that point I believed that I needed to be with someone else in order to experience that feeling of being “in love”, the whole Jerry Maguire “you complete me” thing. What a load of horse shit.
The truth of the matter was, deep down I knew that the love I was working so hard to find, I could lose all over again (and potentially lose some of myself in the process). Because on the contrary to many a love song, when it comes to relationships, sometimes love isn’t enough. There was no way I was willing to do that. Not when I’d worked so hard to regather all the pieces and put them back together again. I wasn’t willing to put my happiness, my love, my contentment, my anything into the hands of someone else. No way.
But my inner voice kept quietly insisting that running away from love wasn’t the answer, either. I decided that if I wanted to be “in love” I would do just that. I would somehow find a way to be in a state of love all on my own first. And I didn’t care if that meant that I would be ‘alone’ for the rest of my life… I had many meaningful relationships in my life with family and friends. What I wanted to experience was being in a state of love no matter what day it was or who I was sharing my Saturday morning/dinner/bed/house/fears/hopes/dreams/vulnerabilities/whole entire life with.
Simple: yes, easy: no. I worked bloody hard. I took the advice of a friend (who happens to also be a psychologist… handy!) to write a list of “100 things I absolutely love about myself”. It was the hardest thing I have ever written (cringing all the way through from number 1 to number 100). But every passing day as I moved more and more into my “in love” state, the more comfortable I got with it all and the more I began to believe it. The more I began to believe it, the more people could see the space of love that surrounded me. And the more people could see it, the more they wanted to be in it and the more they wanted to be in it, the more they complimented me with “I LOVE this about you”, almost reciting one of my 1-100’s. It was crazy!
I gave myself the things that I wished someone else would (gorgeous flowers every week, amazing dinners, aromatherapy massages, decadent baths). I tapped into the universal flow of divine love every day through my morning Light Bathing Meditation (check it out for free here). I did my best to look at myself the way I looked at the people I loved so dearly (tricky, very tricky).
Before I knew it, I had found my “in love” state. And you know what?!? The next month I met someone that I wanted to share that space with. And the best thing: they had been on their own journey to create their own space of love too. But this time it was all different because I didn’t need a thing from them. For starters, there was no “falling in love with them” because I was already “in love” (in my own space of love). So instead of falling in love with them (my love being determined by them being there) I simply invited them to be in love (in my space of love), with me. And like most things in life, that space is even better/warmer/more fun when shared. But the most important bit: I don’t need them to feel “in love”, because now I can tap into that space of love at any time all on my own. Woo hoo!
Sending big love from my space of love to you.
The art of receiving.
The more filled up you are, the more you have to give. It makes sense. But it’s so easy to forget, especially when we have people around us who truly need our support, effort, love, understanding, help or work. But it’s at these times when we are called to give more than normal that it’s most important to stop and fill up our own well. And the thing is it actually doesn’t take that long. And when we do it we are always more productive afterwards.
You don’t need to climb a mountain and go on retreat for a month to get the effect. Regular daily actions like taking a bath (10 mins), walking in the park (20 mins), buying yourself flowers (£6) or meditating (5 mins) will do the trick. If you don’t already do it give it a go for a week. The people around you will thank you for it in the end.
Every decision we make either takes us closer to or further away from ourselves. Often it’s hard to tune into the subtle energy, but deep down everything is either a ‘yes’ or a ‘no.’ A ‘feel good’ or ‘feel not as good’. An avoiding or a coming home to. At the end of the day, all you truly have is yourself, and no matter how much we move towards it or away from it, it is you who is guaranteed to be there in the end. Next time you are struggling with a decision, ask yourself the simple question: which solution sees me moving closer to myself? And do that. You will thank yourself in the end.
If you’re competing with someone else you’re really competing with yourself.
That woman you’re jealous of, who has what you want: they are you and you are them. And you’re both doing your best.
That girl you’re competing with, who presses your buttons, who doesn’t deserve it as much as you. They are you and you are them. And you’re both doing your best.
That chick who annoys you, who beat you to it, who is doing what you were planning on doing and now it’s too late. They are you and you are them. And you’re both doing your best.
That lady who got the guy, who somehow got lucky and just landed on her feet. They are you and you are them. And you’re both doing your best.
That sister who went out and got it, who followed her calling, who is doing a bad job at something you’d do better. They are you and you are them. And you’re both doing your best.
If you pay enough attention when you look in her eyes, you’ll see you reflected back.
And if you take just a moment you will see that they are you and you are them. And that you are both just doing your best.
If you’re competing with someone else, you’re really competing with yourself.
Any kind of physical dis-ease you experience is your body trying to tell you something. An attempt to get your attention and shine some light on what in your life is out of alignment. A cry for you to go inwards and listen to what you may be missing. To come face to face with a part of you that you may be neglecting or ignoring or pretending isn’t there.
For so many of us soldiering on is our natural instinct. Just push through it, persevere, keep on keeping on. We resist what it’s trying to teach us and resent it being there in the first place because ‘This wasn’t part of the plan!!!’ And in doing so life finds another way to get our attention. Through more physical dis-ease, things not going to plan or really annoying people acting as mirrors in our life. ‘Seriously, what is THEIR (my) problem?!’
But the good news is that at any point we can put on the brakes, take off the running shoes, put down the shield, turn inwards and listen. We may not like what we hear, but, regardless of how long we avoid listening, it won’t let up until we hear it.
When you feel me, I’m there. Your loved ones are never lost. Just because you can’t see them or touch their face doesn’t mean they’re not here. And the love. The love. The love never dies. So when you are overcome by a feeling, a scent, a thought of your beloved lost, breathe in and share that precious moment with them. For they are there with you.
P.s. See those two feathers? They flew onto screen as I took the photo and at the same time the song Rise by Eddie Vedder came on which reminds me of my dear friend Blair. Beautiful confirmation that while their body is gone they never are lost completely, their soul lives on, but it’s just on a different dimension to us. May you find peace in the heartache and choose to shine all the brighter for being touched by their soul.
It definitely happened but it’s not still happening.
That thing. It happened. It was horrible. Painful. Hard. Unfair. And you’re angry. Hurt. Left to hold it on your own. The past. It most definitely happened. But you don’t need to keep living it. Living it over and over with each fresh day. Take the lesson, feel it all you can and then leave it there behind you. It’s too heavy to carry everywhere you go. And it’s already hurt enough. It’s time to let go. Baby step by baby step leave it there behind you. Turn the page and walk palms up, ready for a new once upon a time to begin.
Tomorrow’s taking orders. What would you like to experience next? For just a moment entertain the idea that anything is possible. If it were (it is) what’s that one thing that pops to mind? What does your heart yearn for most? Listen. Trust. What’s the first baby step towards making that thing happen. Towards putting things in motion? It doesn’t matter how small a step it is. It could be as tiny as googling ‘reindeers/bank loan/beach house/Where to meet hot Nordic blokes/how to play the guitar’. Your job is working out the what, the Universe’s job is the how. Listen to the what and take action today. No matter how small a step it is. Tomorrow is taking orders. What would you like to experience next?
That thing you really want to do.
That place you want to go.
That thing you’re bursting to say.
That dream you’ve always had.
Don’t wait until all your ducks are in a row (have you ever seen ducks neatly in a row?!?)
Go do it now.
Don’t wait to feel ready.
You’ll work it out.
Don’t be attached to the outcome. Your job is to work out the what, the Universe’s job is to work out the how. Don’t be attached to the outcome, just dive in and do it with all the love and passion that you can conjure. And before you know it, the Universe will surprise you with an outcome that is beyond what your mind could possibly imagine.
You have an inner light in you that has always been there and will never go away. An inner fire that no matter how dark or bright it gets will continue flickering away.
People can see it just by looking at you. It’s that “something special about her” that they see. It’s that “spark”. That “twinkle” in your eyes. It’s all there within you, right now you’re just being called to turn up the heat. To turn that knob and let it shine brighter and bigger. That’s your natural state. That’s your authentic self.
You were born to shine your light. Babies do it without any effort. That’s why we can’t keep our eyes off them. Their light is so bright that it makes even the hardest person’s heart soften. You had that power too. You have that power still. Go on, do it. Take down the wall, and let us see it.
Did you know that people actually respond to your vibration more than your words? If your words and your energy are not a vibrational match then it actually doesn’t matter what you’re saying. So if you’re ever struggling to be heard or get your message across clearly (at work, with a loved one, as a brand) don’t busy yourself going round and round in your head to make the words all perfect. Take a moment to check in and notice what your energy is saying.
If it’s not a vibrational match, all the words and songs and dances and backflips (and even outfits) in the world won’t stand a chance. If you notice that your energy is saying one thing and your words another, either change your energy or change your words, until you’re back into alignment.
You are a walking piece of art. An original. Like. No. Other. If all the masters of all the ages came together in an attempt to re-create your You, they’d spend their lives trying but bow down in surrender at the end of every single day.
You have a treasure chest of perfect imperfections that make your perfect You. Each gently whispering the story of every single moment that has breathed through you.
The slightly bent arm from that time you fell off the swing certain you could fly. The splatter of kisses from your time as a water baby and child of the sun. The friendly creases around your eyes from freely giving out smiles to strangers. The scar above your lip from believing you could, and still deep down you know you can.
And then there’s the part of you that has been sculpted for lifetimes. A billion times more unique than a fingerprint and the ability to share it all with just a glance. If you’re looking you’ll see it. If you give someone else a minute you will not be able to miss it. If you give yourself a minute in the mirror, you won’t be able to miss it.
You are one of a kind. An original. A limited edition. Open the curtains. Let us bask in your beauty. You are a walking piece of art.
Every moment is an opportunity to deepen our learnings of life. When we resist saying “oh this, I already know this” we open the door to life to come in and touch our soul even more deeply. We are all eternal students. I am so happy to have learned this recently, even more deeply than I knew it before. And I’m looking forward to learning it even more deeply than I think I know it now. Sometimes words get in the way of truth. Soften your mind, and your soul will be touched.
Your heart is elastic. It can grow or expand according to how much you are ready to receive. It can be stretched and filled up with all of the love that is flowing through the Universe. Which is a lot. In fact, it’s unlimited. You have constant access at all times to the powers of divine love, light, truth and wisdom. They are waiting for you to invite them in. How available are you to them? How much love/joy/abundance/light/amazingness can you handle?
Be an encourager, not a discourager. Someone who wants the best for others and celebrates when they win. Be an encourager, not a discourager. Someone who sees the light in those around them and reminds them of it when they fall. Be an encourager, not a discourager. Someone who acknowledges their jealous thoughts but chooses to replace them with another. Be an encourager, not a discourager. Someone who admits when they are down but doesn’t demand that they take others down with them. Be an encourager, not a discourager. Someone who remembers that we are actually all on the same team.
What’s your heart’s deepest prayer? Every heart has a deep prayer that make all the other desires, goals and wants look like background music. When we dive into the bountiful depths of our heart, this prayer pulls us towards it like the sun’s rays glimmering through the ocean or the brightest ember of a fire. When we gather up the space and honesty to dive into it, we can not help but surrender to its humble truth and raw beauty. When we offer up our heart’s deepest prayer to the divine, we stop relying on our own strength to make it happen. We realise that my will and thy will are actually one and the same. The deep prayer in your heart not only knows the way, it IS the way.
What’s your heart’s deepest prayer?
A prayer for riding the wave of what is. Divine Mother, may I see the beauty in every experience. May I grow to refrain from labeling things as positive or negative and simply ride the wave of what is. May I meet my challenges with a cheer, knowing that these are the things that invite me to discover new parts of me that until this meeting even I did not know were there. And so it is.
Answer the yearning. Our soul speaks to us through yearnings, longings, whispers and deep prayers. They’re not always loud and they are not always communicated in words, but if you create space every day to listen, you’ll find that your soul has all the wisdom and insight that you need to take the next step.
The person you are trying to let go of.
That heartbreak that feels too big to bear.
You’re already doing it,
And you’re closer than you think.
The sadness that weighs on your shoulders.
The heaviness that sits like an elephant on your chest.
Breath by breath, you are moving through it,
And you are closer than you think.
The person you are praying to forgive.
That grief you are desperate to release.
You’re already doing it,
And you’re closer than you think.
The person you admire.
The woman you long to become.
You are her and she is you,
And you are closer than you think.
The vision you are striving towards.
That dream that feels out of reach.
You’re already doing it,
And you’re closer than you think.
The end will be unrecognizable from the picture in your head,
But you’ll know it when you get there by the way you feel in your skin.
Stay open. The hardest thing about difficult times is that they make us want to close down, retract. But if we are somehow able to find a way to courageously stay open through the pain (feeling all the pain, not pushing it down) and actually let the the crumbling crack us right open (rather than close up shop)… that’s where true transformation happens. And just like magic, in time and in ways beyond our comprehension, our sufferings are able to become blessings.
Living from your heart takes courage because when you live from your heart there is nothing to hide behind. You are out there, for all to see. You are daringly saying, this is who I am and this is what I truly believe and desire. You let yourself be seen, like really seen. And some people might not like it. But your people will. When you live from the heart the most magnificent thing happens: you no longer need another person or external force to acknowledge or see you, for in living from your heart, you have already acknowledged and witnessed yourself. Be courageous. Live from your heart.
Anything inauthentic can no longer survive. Anything that is not in alignment with who we truly are is proving harder and harder to hold onto. Rugs are being pulled. Foundations are crumbling. Sometimes, the tower must fall.
It’s as if the Universe is trying with all its mite to get our attention. To wake us up. To urge us to build our lives on the unshakable foundations of who we truly are and who we came here to be.
Finding the courage to let go of the life that we have consciously created is scary. It’s why not everyone does it. And why it’s so common to do all we can to ignore the whisper.
And so that whisper gets louder and The Universe just keeps turning up the heat until it gets so hot that we finally beg for mercy.
Creating a life based on who we truly are is not always easy. It requires a letting go often without having something or someone to take its place. It’s why not everyone does it.
(But you’re not everyone.)
When we somehow manage to let go of control and build a life on who we truly are, life begins to flow. It’s like floating downstream or walking on a travelator at the airport… We discover that the only way to find ourselves in a life that lights us up is to actually follow the invisible trail of what lights us up and to do it over and over again. We discover that this whole time The Universe has been doing everything it could to get our attention and that it will do whatever it can to support our rising and our lighting up. It’s only right that The Universe support us in this way, for when we are lit up, we automatically light up the world.
What is rising in you? What is bubbling to come out? What is ready to overspill, to overflow, to come flowing out? What is ready to be born? What is bursting to emerge? What is impatiently tugging, nagging, and bursting to come through you?
Whether you like it or not, that is what is rising in you.
That which is bubbling up, that is what is rising in you.
That which is longing to be born, that is what is rising in you.
A child, a book, some form of creation.
That, all of that, that is what is rising in you.
When we connect with the bubbling well of our heart and let it do its thing, we connect the inspiration of Divine Mother with the power of Divine Father. Inspiration and creation merge with surrender and daily action.
Give in to the bubbling,
Surrender to the swelling,
Show up every day with tiny daily actions.
For when you express what is in your heart, or rather let what is in your heart express itself through you, you effortlessly dive into the current of a life in alignment. And when you live a life in alignment, your unique presence alone contributes to the healing of the planet. And when you draw your last breath, you do so knowing that your being here has left the planet a little more harmonious than it was before.
If you feel called to answer your soul calling and serve the world by being you, check out my online course and community for writers, artists, speakers, creatives and soul-led entrepreneurs, Work Your Light, here.
When we answer the whisper of our soul we say YES to the Universe, when we say YES to the Universe we automatically slip into the mysterious flow of Life. If your soul is whispering (hint: it always is), my wish for you is that you will find a way to say a BIG FAT YES RIGHT NOW. And after you do, the Universe will deliver with something beyond what you could have possibly imagined.
The best bit comes just after the worst bit. If you are being stretched right now, think of it as training, heart stretching training. For when the wheel of fortune comes spinning around (it can’t not) your heart’s capacity to hold and appreciate it all will be that much greater than it could have possibly been before. The worst bit comes just before the best bit.
When you follow what lights you up and lose yourself in the doing two things happen:
1. You turn on your inner light (i.e. your soul and spirit is activated)
2. You light up the world in a way that only you can (because what lights you up will be completely different to what lights anyone else up).
When you follow what lights you up you are in your spirit. When you are in your spirit you are in flow with the universe. When you are in flow with the universe your life is in alignment. When your life is in alignment you are living the life that you were born to live AND even better, the life that ONLY you can live.
The triple bonus: When you follow what lights you up you light up the world with your presence. When you light up the world with your presence you automatically inspire others to connect with their own inner light. I.e your light is contagious.
For more on following what lights you up and answering the call of your soul, check out my book Light Is the New Black.
Don’t wait for someone else to give you what you need. Go give it to yourself. Fill up your well. It is only when we are filled up that we can spill over and truly share our love with another. You are no use to someone when you are running on empty. Fill up your well and watch the transformation as you have even more of yourself to give.
There are two different types of people: those who get their energy from others, and those who replenish their energy by spending time on their own (drawing it from Source).
Most lightworkers fit into the latter category. (Which is why developing a daily practice where you connect with Source is so important).
You’ve worked hard to raise your vibration, so it’s worth taking note who in your life raises you up energetically, and who drains you. Who you genuinely want to be spending your time with and who you are doing so with out of habit (if you are doing it out of habit, the other person will be also).
I see so much in my practice that healers and light workers who maybe haven’t stepped fully into their calling may be surrounded by people who have unofficially recruited them as their healer or uplifter, which is the perfect distraction to doing the work. But it happens to all of us!
The thing to remember is that every single relationship is an energetic agreement, and so no one can take your energy unless you let them. So if you find yourself being the electricity for others ask yourself, what are you getting from it? Remember to be the lighthouse, not the electricity supply.
This doesn’t mean that you should only hang out with people who are wholeheartedly committed to raising their vibration and in an optimistic place in their lives.
Rather, it’s about becoming aware of who has the tendency to drain you so you can look after your energy levels and decide on how much time you spend with them, or perhaps more importantly, so you can decide when you spend time with them (e.g. when your well is full not when you are running on empty).
Work Your Light:
Who in your life lights you up and who drains you?
What is your soul calling you to do right now to replenish your energy? (If in doubt, try this)
There’s a part of you that knows the answer to everything you seek. Your path and your purpose, which direction to move and exactly when to leap. Before you incarnated, it received a mandate from spirit, upon hearing this request this part of you jumped right on in and couldn’t wait to begin.
Willing to be ignored time and time again, the part of you that knows vowed to never give up, no matter how long it takes. The part of you knows that you are in exactly in the right place to do everything that you set out to. For, the part of you who knows, also knows that deep down you know too. You’re ready. You know the next step. The part of you who knows is calling you right now and wanting you to get ready to leap.
No one is immune to life’s pleasures and pains. Earth is a planet of polarity and sometimes being human is HARD! The pleasures stretch our heart and the pains do exactly the same thing. We are here to grow through the pleasures and the pains. We cannot use spirituality to avoid the pains or to hold onto the pleasures forever. But we can use it to know that both are wonderful no matter how pleasurable or painful they are.
For more on keeping our hearts open through the extremes of life, check out my book Letters to a Starseed
What is falling away? What is wanting to uproot? What part of you is becoming harder to tie down? What is becoming less and less important? How is Life trying to change you? What is ready to move on? What is moving away from you? What is draining you to hold onto? What used to be important to you but now not so much? If you weren’t afraid of nothing coming to take its place, what would you release?
You have everything in you to get through anything that life throws at you, because you are part of Life, and Life always finds a way. When experiencing the ebbs and flows of Life, it’s easy to feel like you are a victim of all of this, but what if all of your suffering is actually happening for you, not to you, and is just Life’s way of getting you back into Her flow?
All of the world’s problems stem from the epidemic of separation. All are caused by a fearful belief that we are all on our own. Every man or woman for herself. Me against You. Us against Them. She against Me. But just as Carl Sagan found when he looked down at this amazing blue dot of a planet called Earth, there are no borders and we are not separate from Life. There is no other. Just us all.
We can continue with our individual schemes or we can surrender to the interconnected flow of Life. Realising that when you lose something that you thought was yours, you did not own it in the first place. Rather it was just part of all that is just like you. When you choose to see yourself as part of Life, you fall back in flow with the planet. When you fall back in flow with the planet, you fall back in flow with the Universe. When you fall back in flow with the Universe, you fall back in flow with Source. When you fall back in flow with Source, you fall back in flow with everything.
You can’t buy devotion. Devotion can only be gathered by showing up over and over again with intention. In the Age of Light devotion is everything. What are you showing up to with devotion every day?
As a leader of this new age your devotion is what will be felt. People will be able to sense if you are in it for you and your own gain or if you are in it for them, for we, for thee.
When you live your life in devotion you live your life in ultimate service. When we show up to our devotional practice, we are aligned to service and authenticity instantly. When we are aligned, that which is meant for us starts moving towards us like a magnet. You go from my will to thy will. You go from trying to control, manipulate and strive to surrendering in full. Your daily devotional practice gives your life rhythm, a beat to live to.
In order to live a life of devotion, a devotional practice is imperative, whether that is meditation, chanting, Light Bathing, yoga, prayer, or something else. The more you show up to your devotional practice, the more you will be held. The more you are held, the easier the devotion becomes. You are carried. For you are not doing for an outcome, rather your whole life becomes one big moving prayer.
My body, your body, our bodies are intuitive beyond fathomable measure. In fact, without them, we are not intuitive at all. Your clairvoyance is your body. Your clairsentience is your body, Your claircogniziance is your body. Your gut instinct is your body. Your ability to hear the whispers, is your body.
Recently I’ve been shifting the way I think about my body. Instead of seeing it as ‘Me’, I’ve been seeing it as my trusted companion. A friend who agreed to be with me through this magnificent, crazy, bumpy, beautiful, messy, sometimes extremely difficult experience called being human. Vehicle for my soul meets BFF kind of thing. Without Her, I do not exist. She makes it all possible.
Perhaps our bodies faults, limitations, so called shortcomings, aches and pains, bad digestion, that bung knee, that epic period pain or whatever, are not things that are slowing down our human experience (and all we came here to do and all of the light we came here to share). Perhaps they are actually MAKING sure they happen in this human experience. Or rather slowing us down so that we can fully experience them in this human experience. So we CAN do what we came here to do in entirety. So we can plant the light we came here to plant. So we can feel what we came here to feel. Learn what we came here to learn. Share what we came here to share. Heal what we came here to heal. Create what we came here to create.
If we really buy into the fact that we are souls here having a human experience then we must worship the body. For nothing is possible without it. This seems so obvious, but a huge one for us sensitive soul mission types who are always looking for spiritual solutions/naturally seeking enlightenment over embodiment.
So the next time you complain about your body holding you back, hold up for a moment…. And ponder this thought: Perhaps your body is not holding you back, rather, perhaps it is the one that is actually holding you through it. Making that very thing that you are feeling held back from, possible. Holding you, every moment of every day. Now that’s friendship. That’s companionship. What a sacred vessel indeed.
For more on this topic, check out my book Letters to a Starseed here
Do not let the energy of these times to cause you to flee or freeze or stagnate. This is the time for action. Do not stay in the frequency of overwhelm. Find a way big or small to not be a victim of it. Use the energy. Let your mind and body be moved. Confuse the energy with movement. Ground it. Transmute it into ACTION.
If you are angry, ask yourself what can you do to transform that energy into positive action. Rage, frustration, disillusionment, grief, fear, despair. All of these emotions have the potential to be transmuted into something new. Something positive. Something good. Passion is anger turned into action. Anger transformed into something good. Rise up. Stand up. Act up. Move your body.
You don’t need to want to save the planet to transform energy into something positive. Use it whichever way you like. Do something positive. Do not stagnate and absorb. This is the time for transforming (change) and action.
You may be called to act in direct response to what is happening around the world right now. To protect. To speak out. To have your voice heard. To be the voice of those who do not have one.
Or you may be called to create change in your own personal life. In your body. In your mind. In your nervous system. It is these times that the most beautiful and moving art is created. It is in these times that quantum leaps are made possible. It is in these times that we can cause a SHIFT in the critical mass.
Let the times we are living in move you into action. It does not matter which action you choose. Whether you protest, paint, love or activate. Whether you write or declutter or dance or speak. Whether you run or swim or petition or love or vote. All that matters is that you do something. That you use this energy, this fear, this aggression, this sadness, this privilege, this complacency. Use it all.
The nervous system of the planet is recalibrating. And at the same time ours is too. We are the creators of this new world. We are in the crucible of the fire. We can use the heat. We can transmute it into something good. If we all do this, the shift that is possible is beyond comprehension. Together we can and are birthing a new age.
The more personal it feels, the more universal it actually is.
We are all innocent children looking to be seen, understood and cherished.
With wounds and traumas no matter what life has dealt.
Souls doing their best to be embodied.
Deeply longing to belong.
Like so many I’ve spent the past year or so focusing on healing my nervous system. And it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done! I remember a few years back when I realised that my ability to endure, push through and react to urgency had been my superpower.
As the years pass on I see the great cost that way of living has on us. Anything that is not sustainable is not good for anyone in the long run. But admitting and being willing to release an old way of being that once served us so well is no easy feat. And so the unwinding begins.
In our loud, reactive world where instant response is so often expected and at times even a currency, it can feel almost impossible to take a breath, let alone give ourselves the space to rest and reset. Conversations that should be had heart to heart are flung via comment, email and text. It seems that everyone has anxiety these days, constantly scanning our phones for something we might have missed.
Keeping our minds and bodies pointed in the same direction as our souls is near impossible at such reactive speeds.
One thing I’m practicing at the moment, when things feel urgent and I’m reaching to old ways of being instead of going slow and letting the new ground form before me, is the repetition of this mantra: ‘Time is not running out’.
Time is not running out. Because it’s not.
And what I am slowly discovering is that no matter what happens today, or what doesn’t happen today… If it’s truly important and truly for me to deal with, it will be there tomorrow, and often, God will work it out for me while I sleep.
To anyone who feels excluded by God, THAT IS NOT GOD.
To anyone who has been made to feel unholy, THAT IS NOT HOLY.
Thousands of years ago the Bhakti Kirtan movement began when the Indian poet saints gathered the lower caste people in villages around India (who were not allowed in the temples because of their status) to sing God’s name. To have a personal and collective experience of God. To get drunk on the divine essence and nectar that exists WITHIN ALL PEOPLE. AND ALL BEINGS. We all deserve that. We all have access to that. Christ stood for that. All of the great mystics did. And anyone who thinks they have the power to control that is, in my belief, missing the point and disconnected from this sweet sweet nectar. God, spirit, the divine spark, EXISTS WITHIN ALL OF US.
We can have a direct relationship if we choose to. And while organised structure can be absolutely amazing, you do not need an institution to connect with this nectar. It exists within each and every one of us. Start your own place of worship in the temple of your own heart. That is the most holy place of all. And if you are called to worship in an organised way, may we welcome all to join us.
Life is always trying to initiate us. Right now how is life trying to initiate you?
It is the extremes of life that initiate us the most. And these are extreme times. Life is always trying to initiate us into even more of who we truly are. As individuals, as humanity, as a planet. Right now how is life trying to initiate you?
In times of solitude we are called to go in. In times of upheaval we are called to loosen our grip on that which is no longer aligned. In times of heart break we are called to keep our heart open through the extremes and to find a way to let it crack us open. In all times we are called to connect with our true inner nature and the interconnected true nature of all of Life.
It is in extreme times like this that all that is not important can fall away in an instant. Where things that are not necessary become clear. Where if we go in, we are able to see our lives in a different light. And we are able to truly see things for the first time. To see all that doesn’t matter. To see all that we have taken for granted. To see that being alive on this planet is a great privilege. And what a time you chose to come.
So many of us fear change, yet change is the most certain thing in the world.
To be initiated means to cross a threshold, going from one state of being to another. Often it requires a period of time in the unknown. A period of uncertainty. Where we know that we cannot go back to the way things were, but it is not yet clear as to the way things will be.
And so our only choice is to walk through the fire of the unknown. We go into no man’s land in order to journey back into the world changed.
As we cross the threshold it is clear that things will never be the same again. We are asked to walk blindly into a whole new world and a whole new way of being. Forever changed. Life is always trying to initiate us, but few people accept the initiation. It is the extremes of life that initiate us the most. Where we are given the opportunity to crown ourselves. But we must leave behind all that we know to journey into the kingdom that lies deep within.
How is life trying to initiate you?
There will come a time where the young will lead us. They will show us where we have wronged the planet and all living things and demand that we change our ways.
There will come a time where the young will lead us. When the Mother will send warnings, smoke signals and tears attempting to get our attention. Great winds delivering messages that we cannot go on as we once did. Listen. Take note. For when these days come it means the great reset is near. A time of great retreat. A time where we will be forced to face our own inner winter, where we will learn how to go in and without. Where we will gain much needed perspective of the part we play in the dance of life and will get to choose what role we now play in the divine plan.
There will come a time where the young will lead us. The reset will happen. It will become clear what stays and what goes . What we can take with us and what we must leave behind. And when this time comes there will be an opportunity to open. To change our ways for the better. To journey to and through the crown right to the centre of the earth. To reset our breath to breathe with the trees. To reset our hearts to beat with one another. To reset our inner cycles to come and go with the seasons.
There will come a time where the young will lead us. Where we will be given the opportunity to change our ways, to listen to the mother and to truly heed her call. To lead us back to appreciate the only home we have been given and take this precious life and each other for granted no more.
Being human is a great initiation for the soul. Be gentle with eachother. These times. These changing times. These times between time. We are each doing our best to heal not just our personal karmic wounds but also ancestral and collective ones too. When you get triggered remember that you are likely not frustrated or hurt or angry for the reason you think. Being human is not easy. It’s why they call it the great initiation of the soul. So in these changing times cultivate kindness and soften up your heart. Be gentle with eachother. These changing times take great courage.