It definitely happened but it's not still happening.
That thing. It happened. It was horrible. Painful. Hard. Unfair. And you're angry. Hurt. Left to hold it on your own. The past. It most definitely happened. But you don't need to keep living it. Living it over and over with each fresh day. Take the lesson, feel it all you can and then leave it there behind you. It's too heavy to carry everywhere you go. And it's already hurt enough. It's time to let go. Baby step by baby step leave it there behind you. Turn the page and walk palms up, ready for a new once upon a time to begin.